we're headed to New Jersey tomorrow, to spend a couple days with my husband's family.
when i suggested that we go this week, since he has the time off anyway, my husband reluctantly agreed.
when i called my father-in-law to tell him we were coming to visit, he wasn't sure that he'd have time to see us, but would try to drop in one evening...
when i e-mailed my sister-in-law to tell her we were coming, she wrote back to say they'd love to see us, and to invite us to stay at their house...
when i spoke with her this afternoon to confirm times and days, i mentioned that we'd like to either cook a nice dinner or take them out for dinner while we were there, and while my father-in-law was over.... and she said okay.
not one of them has mentioned anything about the fact that this week marks the anniversary of my mother-in-law's death.
and i feel a little strange about that.
does it go without saying? are they simply choosing not to acknowledge the date? do they not realize?
learning how to be part of someone else's family is tricky business.
i'd like to do something special in her memory... but is it my place to bring it up?
or do i just wait and see if any of them even mentions it?